The Four Agreements

I just finished reading a book based on the wisdom of the Toltec who were men and women throughout Southern Mexico that lived thousands of years ago. The Toltec consisted of artists and scientists who formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones.

To simplify, what was passed down from the Toltec (from generation to generation) were four agreements. It was said that any person willing to live a life guided by these agreements (made unto themselves), would live free, with happiness and love, absent of guilt and burden.

It was also said that just to be mentally aware of them, you would be guided by them…. that you would fail at times… but to always begin again…. An important lesson in all this had to do with forgiveness…that once you had forgiven yourself or others for whatever past sins you had come to regret…or things that you have been holding onto against others in your life…you were to forgive and never think on it again. In that alone, you would feel free.

I have tried to live by them for 4 days now… and I have already felt a change…a great and wonderful change. I wanted to share them with you.

The four agreements:

1) Be impeccable with your word : Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2) Don’t take anything personal: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3) Don’t make assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4) Always do your best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.


6 Responses to “The Four Agreements”

  1. They are sound agreements to live by. All equally powerful, yet somehow I especially always think of number 3.

  2. I have not read this book yet. But a friend is a BIG fan of it. I have PTSD so for Christmas one year he gave me Beyond Fear: A Toltec Guide to Freedom and Joy – The Teachings of Don Miguel Ruiz. It has been helpful. Another good book is Open Heart Therapy by Bob Mandel. That one might be a little bit harder to find though.

  3. I’m sincerely sorry to hear that M.Y. and most glad to know you have friends who love you and I’m betting a supportive family too. You found a kindred spirit in that I come from a family with many mental challenges as well, all hereditary. We find laughter our best weapon 😉

    I will look for both books. Thank you for the tip!

  4. Heather, I read this book about 5 years ago, I’m pretty sure Nicole has read it too. Wonderful book. There are others by that writer also. So glad you found it!

  5. I’ve been carrying this book around in my pack the last two weeks. I wanted to reread parts of it. So am delighted to see this post. Such simple agreements – so hard to live by. Glad you posted them.

  6. QM…the connection continues 😉

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